If you suffer from low self-confidence, you might be stuck in some negative mindsets that are affecting the way you think about yourself and, ultimately, your self-esteem. Negative mindsets tend to have a lot of “always” or “never” talk, creating a sense of entrapment and hopelessness. Here are some examples of negative mindsets that can lead to low confidence.
“I”ll never get it right.”
Thinking this way can keep you from trying again, or even trying something for the first time. It makes it only too easy to give up.
“Nobody understands me.”
When you lack self-confidence, a lot of times you assume that everyone else has it together and you’re the odd man or woman out. You may feel isolated, and feel as if others have their lives together while you are still floundering. This can lead to a low self confidence both in your art, and in your life.
“I am totally useless.”
When you lack confidence, you may feel like you don’t have anything of value to contribute, whether it’s to your workplace, relationships, or something else.
“I am a complete failure.”
No one fails at every single thing; but to a person with low self-confidence, it can sure seem that way. You may feel like everything you’ve ever tried has failed, even if this is not true. Although I do not like cliches, I will say that what you percieve as failure is simply something in your life, that is teaching you, or telling you to approach things differently. Divorce is not a sign of failure. Unsold art is not a sign of failure. Divorce is just something that happens in life. I approached my divorce as a lesson in life. I saw it as a lesson on loving myself and making myself a priority. Art not selling is not a sign of failure. Simply, look at what you are doing, and how you are selling it, and then see what you can do different.
“I could never do that.”
Do you see someone with a successful lifestyle you wish you had? If you lack self-confidence, you may have the above reaction. Instead of being inspired and wanting to create that lifestyle for yourself, you look at that person and get depressed, thinking you could never have what they have.
Stephen Hawking said, ” Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious. And however difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. It matters that you don’t just give up.”
How Can These Mindsets Be Overcome?
In order to overcome these destructive mindsets that lead to low confidence, it’s necessary to reprogram your thought processes. You will need to pay attention to your negative self-talk and immediately change it to something positive.
For example, instead of “I will never get it right,” you could stop that thought in its tracks and think instead, “I have trouble with this, but if I keep trying and seek out the right help, I know I can succeed.” Rather than, “I could never do that,” think, “I would love to do that! There’s no reason why I can’t have that lifestyle if I work at it.”
Sylvia Plath once said, ” The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.”
Overcoming a negative mindset as an artist is as easy as ceasing to compare yourself, and ceasing to look at the accomplishments of others in a sort of competitive manner. Remember, that in the grand design of the universe, there is enough room for all of us. There is plenty of room for you, and there’s plenty of time, too. Don’t feel badly because you’ve not accomplished your goal yet, at the age you’re at. Many many artists and moguls accomplished their dreams after the age of 40, so don’t worry about it so much. Relax. Love yourself.
I used to grumble to myself that I didn’t know how to love myself. Maybe you’re thinking the same thing.
“How do I love myself?”
Well, how do you love a baby? How do you love a child? You love them by caring for them. By nurturing them. By looking out for their safety. So mother yourself. Nurture yourself. Look out for yourself. Make yourself a priority.
In your art, do not compare yourself, or think negative thoughts about your art or yourself as an artist. You are exactly where you are meant to be.
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